Looking Back: Tracking the Passage of Time and a Life

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Looking Back: Tracking the Passage of Time and a Life / Reblogged with permission from Bob Lowry:

Before I began blogging I kept journals. There was never any systematic approach. I’d feel the urge to keep a record of a vacation, or the start of a new year would prompt me to start daily entries and I would begin writing my thoughts into a small notebook. Most lasted only three or four months before I stopped.

Every once in awhile I look back at my notes from five, ten, 15 or even 20 years ago. It is amazing to me how consistent my feelings, reactions, fears, and goals have been over that period of time. The same things that bothers or pleases me today, bothered and pleased me in 1992, a full nine years before retirement. I stopped journaling in 2009, and one year later began Satisfying Retirement.
There are some entries from various years and events that I thought might be interesting to share . They give an insight into my motivations and thought process before I stopped working, and then into the first several years of retirement. In 1998 I wrote the following to myself after a verbal blowup at a meeting:

*I must slow down and proceed cautiously when change is involved.

*I must not rush to do something but take the time to assess the situation completely

*I must realize that I threaten the comfort zone of some older guys, so I must proceed with caution and sensitivity.

*I don’t have all the answers and have a lot to learn

A few months later I noted:

I seem to be standing on the sidelines of my life at a time when there is absolutely no reason why I shouldn’t be in there swinging. Possible reasons?

    • fear of failure
    • laziness
    • lack of passion or motivation
    • lack of focus
    • lack of knowledge
    • lack of coherent plan

Many of these same concerns and analysis reappearing in the journals entries of February of 2000, January 2001, and while on a vacation in Tuscany, Italy in 2006.
As we approach the New Year, I wanted to see what I thought at the same point in my past. An entry on December 31, 2000 gave me a stark reminder of how far off the path to a satisfying retirement I was 13 years ago:

2000 – a year I’d just as soon forget. The business (my radio consulting business) finally wound down to virtually nothing, we were forced to get ready to move to a smaller home, Betty had to take a job she disliked at JC Penney’s because we need the money, I ended up working as a glorified waiter for a local focus group research company, one daughter wants to move away from family to San Diego, the other is so overworked she is not happy.

On the positive side Betty had one of her better years, health wise, the rest of us avoided any major illnesses, Mom and Dad stayed relatively healthy, I became much more involved in church, I became trained as a Stephen Minister leader, after some rough patches our marriage seemed to stabilize.

I began to notice a real difference beginning in 2004 in what I was writing. While I still had the normal rants about my failures and shortcomings in certain areas, the overall attitude was much better. After three years of retirement I guess I had begun to figure it out. I was looking more at gaps in my life as opportunities instead of failures. The pressures of watching my business die were gone, and a realization that time could be a friend and not an enemy was apparent in my entries. This one from 2005 seems to be a good place to close:

Make an cultivate a few close friends, stay in touch with people, give of myself, read widely, exercise regularly, turn off the TV, fight the rut of routine. leave time for leisure, have more fun, take up a hobby or pastime that gets me outdoors. Eat less, laugh more, quit fussing, encourage at least one person per day. Plant a garden, put real plants in the house, Trust God for something that seems impossible, Loosen up on the intensity. Stop taking myself so seriously.

Start today.

Guess what, that list works just as well in late 2013 as it did eight years ago. Retirement and living well is a process. I am glad you and I are taking the trip together.

Posted byBob Lowry

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Bob Lowry  is the author of the definitive retirement guides: Living A Satisfying Retirement and Building A Satisfying Retirement. Bob has been profiled in Money Magazine & CNNMoney.com as well as Ad Age Insight White Papers. He is a featured author in nationally released book, “65 Things To Do When You Retire” and “65 Things To Do When You Retire – Travel” as well as regular contributor to PBS’s Next Avenue web site.

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