Abundance [uh-buhn-duhns] “a copious supply or great amount. A degree of plentifulness”.
The other day I had an email from a friend who is just a few years from retirement. in which she whinged along for several paragraphs regarding how unfairly she was being treated at work , The more I read, the more I was reminded of the glass half empty syndrome, and the more I realized that she expected me to console her, what I really wanted to do was give her a good shake and a quick lesson in the nature of abundance.
It was not that I doubted that things were as she claimed; I knew that she was surrounded by unhelpful layabouts and that a new boss was demanding all sorts of procedural changes. What bothered me was her insistence on only viewing the situation from a negative perspective.
Just seven years from retirement, she has a good salary with pension benefits and five weeks’ vacation and a realistic chance of obtaining a bonus more than once a year; and yet instead of counting her blessing, she is consumed with bitterness. She is resentful that even though she is a senior manager, she was not consulted before the restructuring plans were unveiled.
What she failed to realize was the enormous opportunity she had been handed to embrace the changes at work and re-establish herself as a leader as the entire team transitioned through the restructuring – in short she had failed to realize that her cup was already half full of opportunity and that there was an abundance of things that she could fill it up with.
There is no doubt that we all live in the world that we create for ourselves, and that we each fill our world with an abundance of whatever we wish. In this case, by constantly fearing a loss of control in her work environment, my friend actually surrounded herself with bitterness and anxiety. The more she doubted her own ability to adapt, the more she failed to realize that she was in complete control of what she filled her cup up with whether it be tears of frustration, or sweat of hostility and resistance, or with a positive outlook and dreams of success.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words and I think this one says a mouthful. While two opposing forces wage a debate regarding whether the glass is half full, or half empty – BOTH sides miss the fact that the glass is always full of a mixture of the known, and the unknown. If water is the positive attributes that we bring to or environment, and air represents the unknown (the fears, doubts and negativity that are always lurking in the background), then the more good things we put in our cup, the less space there is for negativity.
A youngster can only see the water, but we are older now and wisdom has its advantages – we know that there will always be an abundance of things in our cup – whether or not we enjoy the concoction we have mixed for ourselves is entirely up to us.