Written by Sheena Storie
My oldest grandson had to make a New Year resolution list for homework just before the holidays.
He was trying to understand exactly what this was.
The word resolution was a new one for him and he just did not comprehend the whole idea. We talked about it for a while and I gave him some ideas.
I said, “Some people might decide to go on a diet and lose some weight. Maybe someone would like to start to exercise more. Or take the dog for a walk, or help the old lady next door with her yard work. It can be anything you want to do that is going to help you or someone else. Or just do something good for you.”
He thought about this for a moment and said, ”But don’t people do all these things anyway..? Why do they have to make them resolutions…?”
We talked about this for a while and finally I said, “Ok let’s think about what you would like to do.”
“Is there anything you could do to help you or your mummy..?”
“No” he answered, “We’re fine. Mummy doesn’t need my help she’s got Daddy to help her.”
“Oh I’m sure you could do SOMETHING. Think about it….Tidy your room, get dressed for school a bit quicker, help your little brother to get dressed, or play nicely with him. Put trash in the outside bin, do your homework without being told to do it. Anything that would be helpful, or something nice for you or your family.”
I felt like saying to him, “How about just agreeing with Grandma and not always being stubborn .. !!!”. But I thought better not. I like his independence. So, I told him to think about it for a wee while and he went off to ride his new scooter.
On the other hand, I felt a bit of a fake, as I gave up making New Year resolutions years ago as I never kept them .. !!
Actually, to be honest, I never even started some of them. I am a serious procrastinator. I put off everything until I absolutely have to do something. I used to worry about this and it added to my anxiety level, so I don’t worry about it and just accept it. I never don’t do something … I just do it at the last moment.
I can clean my house in a flurry of activity in a very short time if I know some one is visiting!!!
I can fill in forms in a nano-second and deliver them to the right offices on time.
My husband has never questioned my procrastinating ways, but as I rarely ask him to do anything to help then we just live in harmonious chaos for a few days till it all gets tidied up and off we go again.
My grandson brought over his homework book and announced quite proudly “I’ve done the resolutions grandma here you are.” I put on my glasses and read this.
“My New Year resolutions :-
- Mummy will make me macaroni and cheese every Saturday.
- Daddy will play football with me every night.
- My brother will never come into my bedroom.
- Grandma will pick me up early from school lots of times.
- Grandpa will let me watch all the football I want on his TV.
Maybe he has something here
We should make resolutions for other people. Well may be not
I guess I need to go talk to the boy wonder again …
Sheena Storie, Bermuda –
Sheena is a grandmother of four children ranging in age from 2 months to 6 years. During her lifetime career as an educator, she was a learning support teacher to children with learning difficulties, including dyslexia.