Part of the problem in trying to be Happy is that it can sometimes be difficult to admit to being Happy. Just say it, “I am Happy”. I bet that wasn’t as natural as you thought it might be.
Try this :
Place your cursor on this line …
UnHappy —————————————————————— Happy
Click to freeze it in the spot you choose on the “Happy Line
Now stop and ponder. Is that really how you feel..?
The point is that YOU made the choice, no-one else … and you really can’t lie to yourself.
The secret of being Happy is not to cheat and say the words, just because it would be nice. You really must BE HAPPY to mean it. But it is not that simple.
The vast majority of people are Happy in some parts of their life, but not so Happy in other parts. So this is not a 100% one way versus 100% the opposite way issue. Look at the Happy Line above. All the way to the left would mean 100% Unhappy, while all the way to the right would mean 100% Happy.
But life just isn’t like that.
So, the first thing we need to grasp is that it is highly unlikely that you will be 100% Happy. Fair enough. So, relax.
The secret to this Retirement Happiness improvement program is to take small steps – from where you are – to where you would like to be – but recognise that 100% Happiness is a silly dream. Not achievable.
As we help you to migrate towards raising your Retirement Happiness you will realize two things:-
- The steps you take must be small, but positive – gradual change.
- That millions of others think and feel like you, so you are far, far away from being unique, or strange, or alone.
“I get up at 7 o’clock every morning – winter, summer, weekdays, weekends, rain, wind or sun … etc.”
Many of us are so tied to our daily regimen that the merest thought of lying in would upset us. “That’s the slippery slope to lying in bed all day,” I hear you say. No, it isn’t.
But, YOU are in control – remember. So, if you feel good about lying in one day, then do so, because you and you alone, WILL decide tomorrow to get up at 7 o’clock “as usual”.
Retirement Happiness should be thought of as a Lego set, or building blocks if you prefer. You cannot build the new structure in one jump. Solid structures are built one brick at a time, so the notion that all of a sudden you will wake up one day and …. Ta-ra……..BE Happy … is silly. It just doesn’t work like that.
Regardless of how small or seemingly insignificant something is, if it is something you like, then do it and put it in the Happy column. “I have always taken one teaspoonful of sugar in my coffee, but last week I took two. It tasted so much better, so now I do it all the time.”
Leaving aside the health aspect of that, this is a small example of how one small change can give you a small amount of Happiness. Fine. So, you get the idea.
Ask yourself this question:-
“Do I honestly believe I can GET HAPPY overnight..?
Next week we’ll begin to explore some of the positive ways you can change your life and find deep, sustainable HAPPINESS in a variety of everyday things in your life right now.
We hope you will join us.
“May you have Happiness all your Life”.
The Olderhood Team.