“I can vividly remember things I did 40 years ago, but can’t for the life of me remember if I ate breakfast this morning”.
If you recognize that, then turn around and see how many people around the world, right now, reading this, just like you are, and all of them saying “Me too.”
“It really worries me that my Memory is going.”
How often do we hear that…? It was something we chuckled at years ago when we heard our parents say that. Now it’s our turn.
Leaving serious health issues aside, this is SO widespread among us “Oldsters”.
It is not uncommon at all. In fact, studies show that more people admit to memory loss than those who don’t. So, you’re not peculiar. You’re not !!
Can you change it..? Can you improve your memory..? Can you turn back the clock..?…..Answers … Maybe, Maybe, No.
Yes, you can do crossword puzzles, arithmetic puzzles, Sudoko, Luminosity and so forth. Try to remember people’s names by some kind of association. Write things down more (but try to remember to read the notes !!).
Use a Word document in your computer as your “GoTo” place for everything …. bank account numbers, credit card details, social security number, the plumber’s telephone number, airline membership numbers, etc, etc. This is a tremendously valuable method of laying your hands on information when you need it. You just need to remember that you do in fact, have a “GoTo Page” .. !!!
You MUST password protect it on your machine. You must also have it backed up online if you use such a service. If not you must have 1, maybe 2, USB sticks, or an external hard drive to also back up to. 4 or 5 separate places would be ideal. The trick of course is to use the computer one as the master, but you must remember to update your backups regularly. None of this is complex, so no excuses. Just do it.
Ok, so those are some practical things to do, not to improve your memory as such, but to assist you in still getting hold of the information you need. Surely the getting of the information is more important than how you get it. Of course it is.
So, the message this week is to convince you that the Un-Happiness you are feeling because you are worried about memory loss can be overcome in two ways :
- Follow the above to get the information and disregard whether you actually did remember it or not.
- Relax. You are NOT going nuts. You’re not. If you ARE, then we all are.
If you admit to YOURSELF that you are experiencing memory loss and have a laugh at it, then you’ll move along the Happy Line significantly. It is a serious issue for many people. They are genuinely concerned about it. But, without sounding too offhand, and medical issues aside, memory loss is what it is.
Face the facts. Your memory just isn’t what it used to be, but rather than beat yourself up about it, embrace it as one of those getting older things. If your knees aren’t as sprightly as they were, do you lie awake at night worried about them and cause yourself to be Un-Happy…? No you don’t.
“Ah, but memory loss is far important than my knees”, you say. Yes that’s right, but unless you are suffering from some medical problem, then accept that you can’t remember some things, but openly say “You know, I just can’t remember, silly me” .. go try saying that. Once you make light of it, your Happiness will take another step upwards.
Ask yourself this question:-
“Do I honestly care if I can’t remember my daughter’s telephone number…?
(Hint – Go to GoTo Page !!!!)
Next week we’ll continue to explore some of the positive ways you can change your life and find deep, sustainable HAPPINESS in a variety of everyday things in your life right now.
We hope you’ll join us.
“May you have Happiness all your Life”.
The Olderhood Team.