A thorny issue this week.
Some people have friends for life. They grew up together, went to school together, met at college, maybe even their best friend status turned into something else. Who knows.
The point is that some people have deep friendships, but some people don’t. In fact,sometimes a friend that you’ve had for years just becomes, eh, well. Boring… !!!
People change. You change. We all change. That’s fact.
But occasionally you just get to the stage in your life when that good mate becomestiresome, or you have nothing to say to her any more. Maybe she is engrossed in grandkids so much that you have become a sideline to her. Maybe she wants to travel endlessly and you, either through lack of interest, or lack of money, just can’t keep pace.
The good times you both had, the trips, the parties, the drunken nights (hiccup !!), the long conversations are in the past. They cannot be re-created. Yet sometimes you beat yourself up trying to relive the past. Don’t. Just don’t. It will never be the same.
Move on with your life. It’s not his life or her life that you need to look after, it’s yours. They have their own life all to themselves and if they are happy in it then so be it.
Moreover, if their happy life doesn’t include you then why should you be upset..?
There’s hopefully no need to have a big falling out. That certainly can cause both sides a lot of distress. In fact, there’s probably not even a need to discuss it. It can easily be just a casual slide away from regular get togethers, or phone calls, or even e-mails. He understands. He feels the exact same way in all probability.
But understand this…. If, in the event that something happens to you (or him/her) then guess who will be first to arrive on the scene..?
So, it is perfectly reasonable and natural for you to move on with your life without him/her. If you have become tired of their character, or attitude, or habits, then why make yourself unhappy watching it, when all you’re doing is clinging to the past, just to make sure you are never accused of having walked away.
If you desperately need new friends, then they will come along – probably from the most unexpected places. You may even find new friendship with people you would never have associated with before. On the other hand, if you feel you don’t need new friends, then make that you game plan. There’s no right or wrong, there’s ONLY YOUR HAPPINESS.
Ask yourself this question:-
“Do I really need to get entangled in the woes and complaints of someone else…?
Next week we’ll continue to explore more of the positive ways you can change your life and find deep, sustainable HAPPINESS in a variety of everyday things in your life …. right now.
We hope you’ll join us.
Try this :
Place your cursor on this line …
Click to freeze it in the spot you choose on the “Happy Line”
“May you have Happiness all your Life”.
The Olderhood Team.