The more I speak to people of my own age, who are either in retirement or close to it, the more I realize that some of them, many of them, perhaps even most of them, have this paranoia about being bored with too little to do.
When they had a full-time job they had to go their workplace every day, so were forced to get up and get going. Now with so much time on their hands, they have no external driving force pushing them along. Self-motivation takes on a much deeper meaning at this age, than at any other time in their lives.
People are structured within a structured social structure for all of their working lives. A structure is usually something that someone else has built. An entrepreneur in the capitalist system, a government in other systems. You show up, work, get paid, go home. It’s not that much more complicated than that. Others think for you.
Now it’s your turn.
You could decide to sit at home all day, read newspapers, or books, watch tv, or sleep. Yikes.
On the other hand you could make your own decisions about creating a new lifestyle. You could “re-invent” yourself….. whatever that means. I detest that phrase. “I think I’ll turn myself into a lead guitarist with a rock band”. Dream on.
People talk about gardening, hobbies, travelling, spending more time with family, etc, when they enter retirement. Nothing wrong with any of those to be honest. However, if you decide to start those things solely because you “have the time now”, then you will inevitably run out of interest at some point. You may also run out of steam as well.
There has to be an inner peace of mind that what you are doing really does appeal to your psyche.
Yet a common mistake many people make is to think that by starting something new that you are tied to it for the rest of your life. Not so. If you can say to yourself “I am willing to give it a shot, and if it works out then fine. But if after a period of time I discover that I don’t really like it, then I won’t beat myself up by saying I failed. I will simply move on to something else.”
It really isn’t any more complex than that.
Retirement Happiness will NEVER be found if you force yourself to ask “Are we having fun yet..?” You will be kidding yourself that THIS is retirement and THIS is what you want to. Face the facts. You can’t lie to yourself.
Ask yourself this question:-
“Do I really want to spend the rest of my life, or at least the next few years, doing things that I don’t really enjoy.…?
Next week we’ll continue to explore more of the positive ways you can change your life and find deep, sustainable HAPPINESS in a variety of everyday things in your life …. right now.
We hope you’ll join us.
“May you have Happiness all your Life”
The Olderhood Team.