“A man who says he ‘has no choice’ is really saying that he does not like any of his choices”.
This summer lot of my friends seem to be wrestling with the changes that they need to make in their lives. I am not sure that I am qualified to offer guidance in this area but the events of my life have caused me to start over several times and I do have a perspective regarding what it is like to be pretty much forced to change things that you just don’t want to.
Now I should start by saying that at all times, one does have the option of changing nothing and suffering (sorry experiencing) the consequences of this. This is more or less equivalent of not putting the house up for sale, or renting it to a tenant, when you know that you are going to default on the mortgage payments.
Who would do that you ask?
Lots of people but what they fail to realize is that it is a form of self-sabotage. By taking no action to save their home, subconsciously they are actually allowing themselves to lose it so that they will be forced to make changes in their lives.
In any given situation, regardless of how impossible the circumstances seem to be, it is essential to keep in mind that there is anyways a solution, a way forward, or a way out. But sometimes you really have to want to find it and take a ‘leave no stone unturned’ approach in order to come up with a workable answer. And even then, the answer may be very difficult to accomplish.
I once was in a position where I needed to find a management level job to support my family. There was nothing suitable in my area, or in the industry in which I had employment experience, and I realized that I was going to have to be willing to move anywhere to secure the position that I needed.
I am not saying that this was an easy thing to do – it absolutely was not. I had to find an industry where my skills were compatible, apply for jobs, and when I finally got an interview I had to study for it like it was a university final so that I would appear to be a natural fit for their needs.
I got the job, but then I had to sell my house and most of the furniture on two weeks’ notice and move my car and my dog nearly 3000 miles to a city where I knew absolutely no one.
There were some hard days and some big adjustments to be sure, but it taught me that it is possible to change absolutely anything if I want to badly enough. You just have to commit to a path and put one foot in front of the next until you see it through and refuse to give up not matter what happens.