By Bill Storie
I was reading a newspaper article today which talked about a video from a few older women who were discussing what they would do if they were younger.
The biggest change seems to be that they would have balanced the various aspects of their lives better – wife, mother, at work, at play and so forth. They also reflect on ignoring things in their lives which they now know to be more important than they realized. Turn the clocks back indeed.
Nothing dramatic, just plain common sense. But it got me wondering.
- Could I really have played professional soccer?
- Could I really have been a politician?
- Could I really have done television work?
- What if I had Zigged instead of Zagged, where would I be today?
If only we could turn the clocks back. Would we really have done things differently? I’m not sure.
I remember reading many years ago a book by a guy called Fletcher – it was called “Situation Ethics”. He stated that a person’s action or reaction to any given situation depends on the situation at the time. In other words, he says that you do what comes naturally to you at the moment it happens.
Of course, you can certainly plan for changes in your life – research, discuss at home, discuss with experts, discuss at work and so forth. All valid. But at the end of the day, it really does come down to what you, and probably only you, feel like doing. No point in looking back and saying “If only …”
In these latter years, I do believe though that I would have paid more attention to money and income and investments etc. I think we all tend to put off the big decisions for another day. Sometimes we don’t know what the future will bring, which is fair enough and sometimes we are fearful that we might predict that we won’t have enough money in retirement, but are not in a position to do much about it.
I find that younger folks these days disregard the basics of future life, principally their pensions, their mortgages and their overall financial condition down the line. Of course, they should be paying attention, but frankly they don’t. We can cajole them as much as we’d like but they won’t budge, in most cases. Shame, but there it is.
At our age now, we love the idea that we could go backwards and invest in Microsoft when Gatesy was just coming out of his garage, or when Google hadn’t worked out what it would call itself, or when the house next door was available for 10% of what it is worth today. Ah, hindsight. But we can’t go back. We’re stuck.
Yes, there are things we would have done differently, places we would have visited, jobs we would have taken, and so forth, but the bottom line is that we didn’t. So, don’t beat up on yourself – you are just like the rest of us.
I firmly believe that we simply must take our lives and our well-being as they exist today and get on with it.
I always worked with an old maxim which I crafted many years ago :
Yesterday I have no time for
Today I can just about handle.
Tomorrow, ah tomorrow, that’s MY kind of place !!!
By the time you read this, it’ll be tomorrow with you, so I’ll meet you there !!!!