The Easy Life by Robin Trimingham
This weekend I was chatting with Shola Arewa, a wellness expert from London who is visiting Bermuda, about the importance of creating “ease” in your life.
This is a message that I can relate to personally as it is not always the easiest thing for me to do. Yet it is so important to take things easy (or at least easier) as we age because if we do not manage to let things go, we are actually creating an increasingly toxic level of negativity and stress which can age us prematurely or even make us sick.
To quote Shola, “if you are not creating ease in your life, you are creating dis-ease”.
It seems such a paradox to me that the further you go in life the more important it is to master letting go of the past, and yet the further you go the more things you seem to have to let go of.
There is a temptation, especially for women, to cling to the past and all its disappointments rather than embracing all that life has in store for us. This creation of “dis-ease” can manifest itself as empty-nest syndrome, lonliness, depression or even chronic illness. How easy it is to feel sorry for ourselves and simply wallow in our circumstances rather than shrugging off our challenges as part of life’s journey.
But how different would life be if we only viewed our challenges for the good things that they can teach us about ourselves – how loving we are, how resilient we are, how forgiving we have the capacity to be.
In yoga class, they talk about gently stretching your limbs to “create space inside yourself” at your core. This concept can be equally applied to creating ease in your life – to make room for positive energy in a tightly wound mind, you will have to work to make room for it.
To gauge your resistance to this concept, simply think of a situation in your life that is plaguing your mind and ask yourself “what would be the harm in taking the easy way out of this mess?”.
If you think “Yes! What a great idea” congratulations you are good to go.
If you answered “What nonsense! Nothing will ever change for me” you have your work cut out for you.
Try simply to imagine what would make the situation better for your own self. This is not to be confused with being selfish (thinking of yourself at the exclusion of all others) but rather taking care of yourself first, so that you have the strength and positive energy required to take care of others.
If you would like to learn more about Shola Arewa you can visit her website at www.energy4lifecoach.com – we will also be bringing you video segments of her in the coming weeks.
By Robin Trimingham