Becoming What I Might Be by Robin Trimingham
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be” Lao Tzu
I have been thinking about the concept of letting go this week. Everything you read about the aging process stresses the importance of learning to accept change and letting go.
But what exactly does this mean? On the one hand it is mature to let go of anger, resentment, jealousy, and selfishness; but what happens when we let go of love, and caring and compassion?
I think Lao Tzu was right – let go of anger and become peaceful, let go of resentment and become accepting; but let go of caring and become selfish and self-absorbed. Not the way I plan to live out my life.
I plan to be caring even when it is not convenient. I plan to be loving even when it hurts. I plan to give be accepting even when I am being judged.
So what do I plan to let go of? I plan to give up thinking I have any idea what another person has suffered but I pretty much believe that all people suffer. The “earth school” as Gary Zukav calls it, is a tough institution and no one escapes the life lessons we are here to learn.
Those who seem to have it all figured out are really just better at hiding their struggles and pain. Those who think they can avoid learning or changing their ways just face bigger and bigger demons until something finally knocks them flat. Those who bend and flex in the face of challenges, do progress but they also move forward to face bigger and more complicated lessons.
I know this reads as though I have a very bleak opinion of the human experience, but the truth is just the opposite. I can say with certainty that huge wondrous opportunities exist for those who embrace change and challenges with love, patience, humour and caring. The world has the capacity to be a fantastic happy place when we join forces to create a “world that works for all”.
The question is, when are we going to start using all of the technology that now exists to unite us, to create a better world for everyone? When are we going to finally be brave enough to help each other without expecting anything in return, or worrying about who is the most famous or has the most money?
When are we humans going to let go of what we have become so that we can finally begin to be what we might be?
By Robin Trimingham